Recently I received some news and immediately reacted negatively and wrote a somewhat snarky response. On further reflection I recognized that I was judging when it was also an opportunity for learning. Making quick judgments is part of being human but when we recognize the pattern we can change it.
The writer Marilee Adams illustrates the possibility in switching lanes in her Choice Map.
It’s an illustration from her book, Change your Questions, Change your Life in which she explains the value of asking questions to expand the possibilities rather than settling for quick answers. She distinguishes the difference between making sound judgments and reacting by being judgmental in a helpful and thorough way Expanding the questions, she says, ultimately results in better answers.